Choises Matter-A Lot

When you drop a pebble into the smooth surface of a lake, the ripples circle out to the shore. So it is with our choices. The long-term effects can mean devastation or delight.

The choice of one person to lead another to Christ resulted in a ripple effect. That person led one other to Christ, who led another, who led another, etc. Somewhere along the line of those accepting Jesus was Billy Graham; the rest is history, as they say.

“Family Stories for God’s Glory” tells my story of when I made some bad choices. As a self-centered six-year-old, my choices turned a beautiful day into a sad occasion. My uncles, aunts, and cousins who had gathered to celebrate Easter were affected. One by one, the ripples turned a joyous day sour.

In the Bible story of Joseph, we see him making right and difficult choices. He was a man of integrity who honored God’s laws and refused to sleep with his master’s wife. It didn’t turn out well for Joseph initially, but in the end, we see him honored and reconciled to his brothers, who had rejected him many years ago.

Of course, the ultimate choice, the highest of them all, is that of Jesus Christ, who chose to lay down His life, to suffer and die so that all mankind may be reconciled to God and live a life of hope and a promise of everlasting life with Him! The ripples from Jesus’ choice are still touching everyone today, 2,000 years later!

Thank Him today for being willing to make that choice.

See you next time.

Charlotte H. Burkholder

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Joy is the Flag

April 15, 2025

Do you have a joy-flag? In other words, do you have a dog that loves you? I never have to wonder how ‘Lil Daze feels about me when his tail wags vigorously from side to side. He communicates with his tail his love of the outdoors, his anticipation of a treat, or if he is just plain happy with life.

Joy-flags do not always have to be on a dog. They don’t even have to be a flag. They can be your favorite brand of coffee, a long-awaited trip, a warm hug, or a phone call from your kids. You probably have your own version of a joy-flag. Those who love America enjoy seeing the United States flag waving from atop the flagpole. Colorful flags in a parade celebrate joyful occasions.

The most important JOY-FLAG, the only one that deserves capital letters, is the one in the praise song, “Joy is the Flag Flown High from the Castle of my heart.” (Author Unknown)

  • “Joy is the flag flown high from the castle of my heart,…when the King is in residence there. So lift it high in the sky, let the whole world know–that the King is in residence there.”

What a joy-flag! It’s always waving. It’s there even when life’s circumstances aren’t joyful, even absolutely horrible! Joy is a heart emotion because the King reigns there.

For the child of the King, there is always a reason for joy–the flag is flying from the castle of your heart.

Look for joy-flags today and enjoy.

Charlotte

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FOCUS ON FINGERS OR FACE

March 11, 2025

A starving little street dog came to live with us thirteen years ago. He seems to realize that he had been rescued from certain death. He shows his gratitude by enjoying living with us. Food is his top priority, maybe because he remembers the pangs of hunger. He loves to eat, and he loves all the treats he gets from the people who love him.

‘Lil Daze is a trained therapy dog. His job is to love people, look them in the eye, wag his tail, and let them pet him. This is to be therapy for the one he is visiting. But, when ‘Lil Daze enters a room his first focus is on the floor, just in case someone has left some crumbs there. He wants to explore every corner before acknowledging the person waiting to meet him. After finally convincing himself that he has gotten every crumb that might have fallen, then he turns his attention to the person waiting to love him.

Can you see the similarities in ‘Lil Daze’s action to what ours is sometimes with the God who loves us? Do we focus on His hand to see what He will give us instead of looking at His face and enjoying fellowship with Him. Do we bring Him joy by enjoying what He gives to us, or by focusing on His face and rejoicing in His love for us?

Where is your focus today?

Charlotte

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CONSIDER OTHERS

March 3, 2025

Is that so difficult to do–consider others? There will be as many answers as there are people, and answers might change depending on the situation. But God’s Word tells us, “Don’t be selfish, don’t try to impress others. be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” Philippians 2:3 NLT. We have examples in Scripture, history, and you see it lived out in the people you connect with every day.

If you read, “Snow Drop’s First Kick,” in my book, “Family Stories for God’s Glory,” you will find three excellent examples of considering others. Two are biblical characters, and one is a present-day example from my grandson-in-law,

Abram and his nephew, Lot, had large flocks of animals. The land could not support them both. Abram, considering Lot, allowed him to make the first choice of the land, and he would take what was left. Lot looked around, not considering Abram. He chose the most fertile, well-watered, land for himself.

Much later, in biblical history, we have the story of David and Jonathan. Jonathan, the king’s son, was the rightful heir to the throne. Jonathan loved David and wanted him to be king instead of himself and was instrumental in making that happen. He considered David a better king than himself and humbly gave him that privileged position.

My grandson-in-law is my last, and present-day example. Trevor and Carly were excitedly expecting their first baby. Not yet born, she had already wrapped her little self around their hearts. Much of their thoughts were on this tiny miracle. Trevor had a strong desire to feel little Snowdrop’s first kick. That desire was not fulfilled. Carly had come to visit; Trevor stayed at home. As I laid my hand on Carly’s extended belly, I felt a definite little kick! Carly was excited for me, but considering Trevor she wondered how he would feel when he discovered he was not the first to feel the kick. The next day, after a phone conversation with Trevor, Carly said he was fine, even happy that I had that pleasure. What a joy it is to be considered!

Look for an opportunity to consider someone today.

Charlotte

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Letting Go Can Be Scary

January 13, 2025

Life is full of times when we need to “let go.” Sometimes “letting go” is huge and sometimes, perhaps daily, we need to make lots of little choices that involve letting go. In my book, “Family Stories for God’s Glory,” I write about some of my most significant ones. I let go of my children as they married and left home, one by one. I let go of the home we loved when it was time to move into a retirement community. All of us, at one time or another, will experience the pain of letting good when a loved one leaves this earth.

Perhaps you have needed to let go of a dream, a goal, a relationship, or a slice of time. Maybe you have had to forfiet a much-needed nap or refrain from your favorite dessert.

When God makes it clear that it is His desire that we let go of something and move on, He promises His guidance. One must be willing and part of the process to be victorious. Think of being a sailboat moored with a sturdy rope to the dock. When God gives the signal, our part is to untie the rope and sail out into unknown waters trusting in Him. If we are so firmly attached to something, it can be terrifying to let go, but we won’t move forward until the tether is undone. God promises His help, but the venture will only be successful if we cut the tie.

When God says to let go, we must do our part to make it happen. To be forced to let go without our willingness is not letting go at all. It is a disaster waiting to happen. If we are forced to let go without our consent, our little boat will sail on rough waters. For a peaceful journey let’s ask our loving Heavenly Father to cast off and set the sails. He will take us safely through whatever lies ahead.

Trusting in Him,

Charlotte

Christmas Has Come and Gone–or Has It?

What was Christmas like for you? At Christmas time our sensory stimulation is bombarded with: decorated trees, colored lights, twinkling lights, sparkles, homemade cookies, carolers, candlelight services, parties, manger scenes, gifts to give and receive, Santa Claus, tinsel, wrapping paper and bags, candy canes, egg nog, Christmas music, Christmas movies, family get-togethers, and the list goes on.

Now, Christmas is over, says the calendar. Trees are taken down, lights no longer shine, and bit by bit all the Christmas evidences are tucked away for another year.

All is over and done for another year unless you celebrated the true meaning of Christmas. Maybe in a glimmering candlelight service, maybe as you gazed at the Babe in a manger scene, or maybe all alone you sat quietly with your thoughts and Jesus’ birth became real and personal. If so, then Christmas isn’t over; it has just begun and will continue until the day He comes to take us home. Won’t that be the day!!

Enjoy Christmas all year,

Charlotte

Attitude of Gratitude

November 22, 2024

What do you do with huge disappointments? When hopes are dashed and dreams turn out to be nightmares, then what do you do? When our grandson, Mitch, worked hard for four years to get his mechanical engineering degree, he no doubt, dreamed of walking across a stage, receiving his diploma, hearing the applause of family and friends, and flipping the tassel on his cap from the left to right. It didn’t happen that way for Mitch. Oh yes, he received his degree in mechanical engineering by Zoom. Covid made it impossible for him to experience graduation as it should have been.

Instead of walking across a stage, he reclined on a couch. Instead of wearing the graduation robe and cap with tassels, he wore a well-worn pair of sweats. Instead of all his friends and his grandparents (us) being able to give him hugs and affirmations, it was all done virtually. That seemed rather cold and distant. Virtual hugs just aren’t that warm.

So, what do you do with big disappointments? Mitch’s story in, “Family Stories for God’s Glory,” tells what he chose to do. Mitch is known for his attitude of gratitude. Throughout his life, before his college graduation, he exhibited that admirable quality. Therefore, instead of complaining on graduation day, Mitch responded, “It’s okay. The main thing is getting a good education.” Doesn’t that just warm your heart?

Find something to be grateful for today, even if it’s hard!

Charlotte

“Family Stories for God’s Glory” is available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, or by emailing chburkholder12@gmail.com

AM I THE ONLY ONE LIKE THIS?

November 16, 2024

Sometimes one feels less important simply because they are different. My sweet friend from England feels her accent is detrimental to her fitting in with all the rest.

One beautiful fall sunny day, a large pot of maroon mums caught my eye. I paused to admire their beauty. It must have been, at least, a hundred mums. But what really created the most attention was a miniature mum near the base of the other mums. It was bright yellow!! It didn’t look like the others, except that it was a mum. Maybe it thought it didn’t fit in. On the contrary, it added so much to the beauty of the bunch. It made the whole bouquet quite unique.

Comparing yourself with others is not a good thing. The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 10:12 CEV that it is not wise to compare yourself with others. Whether you compare yourself with someone you think is better than you, or you compare yourself and think you are better than others, both are a foolish and ignorant way to think.

Comparison robs you of the joy of living and enjoying who you are. What does it matter, if you are the shortest person in the room? Why would I envy the one who creates beautiful art, when the best I can do is draw a stick man or woman. What about introverts who admire outgoing people with bubbly personalities. I may be the only one of my friends who can’t do math in my head. Instead of feeling bad about that, I’ll focus on things I am good at. We are all human beings. We all have our differences. What a drab world this would be if we were all the same. Together we can make a colorful world.

Each human being is created in God’s image making them valuable beyond measure. Each one has unique characteristics and different personalities. Only God could make that happen! And He loves you just like He made you and will receive glory from your life as you give it back to Him.

Today, thank God for who you are and who He made you to be.

Charlotte

GROCERY SHOPPING WITH GOD

November 5, 2024

One day, my hurried grocery trip became a holy moment with God. Rushing to beat the clock, I dashed to the store for a few items to make my dinner a bit more special for my soon-arriving guests. I rushed in the door, dashed down the aisle, threw the few needed items in the cart, and headed for check-out. Good, there’s a checkout aisle with only one person, buying only one item. This would be quick.

However, the “only one” person turned out to be an ancient little lady buying Polident for her dentures. The Polident in her withered hand appeared to be the wrong flavor, size, or price. Whatever, it would mean a trip back to get the right item, while I stood nervously tapping my foot.

Grumbling thoughts flooded my mind. They stopped, however, when God whispered, “Someday you might be a little old lady buying Polident and you will need a patient, understanding person to wait on you.”

Focusing on another person instead of yourself is a healthy move.

Next time you feel “out of sorts” about something, try focusing on someone else.

Blessings,

Charlotte

“Family Stories for God’s Glory” may be purchased at Barnes and Noble, Amazon, or from the author at chburkholder12@gmail.com

LAUGHTER: A UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE

October 28, 2024

The first time I met Mia, we had a lively conversation. She was from Germany, and although she had lived in America for many years, Germany was still her homeland. She loved her country and loved talking about it. I enjoyed her stories. You see, I live in a caring community. Someone from our hospitality committee regularly visits people living in assisted living, many of whom are lonely or never have visitors.

So, Mia and I became friends. After Mia celebrated 90-plus birthdays, she often reverted to telling her stories in German, forgetting that I couldn’t understand her. I reminded her, and she switched to English for a few sentences, and then German took over again. Finally, not wanting to keep bothering her, I quit reminding her and just listened to her talk. When she said something funny and laughed, I heartily laughed with her. I decided that laughter is a universal language.

In my book, “Family Stories for God’s Glory,” Grandson Kyle, who has the gift of making others laugh, pulled a fast one on me. It brought relief into a sad situation. God’s Word has this to say about laughter. “A merry heart does good like a medicine.” Proverbs 17:22.

Find something to laugh about today. It will do you good!

Charlotte

“Family Stories for God’s Glory,” is sold at Barnes and Nobel and Amazon.

May also be ordered from the author at: chburkholder12@gmail.com